Viagra and lack of interest from partners

In one sense, cause and effect is easy to see. If the man suffers from erectile dysfunction, the woman gets angry and frustrated. The relationship will be in serious trouble if the man does not take the little blue pills and get back to satisfying the woman. Except, what happens if we put this the other way round. Suppose the woman loses her libido and, whenever sex is tried, she shows little sign of arousal, rarely gets fully lubricated and never seems to have an orgasm. The man is now pushed into an emotional corner. Is he not doing things the right way? He begins to feel inadequate. His male friends boast of their women brought to states of ecstasy (not the drug). By comparison his self-esteem suffers. So if his woman has little or no interest in sex, he also begins to find sex less attractive and erections become less hard. It’s a different reason for performance anxiety and one that not so many people want to talk about.

The idea of female sexual dysfunction is controversial. With men, the failure to produce an erection is all too visible. But women have been given the more passive role. They are supposed to lie there and cooperate so that their men can get the maximum pleasure. As a byproduct, it’s OK for the women to enjoy it as well. Sadly, not that many men are into sex as a team effort where both parties work at producing the maximum enjoyment for each other. This selfishness somewhat misses the point. The little research that has been done into this confirms a type of reinforcement loop. As the woman responds, so the man finds his own enjoyment improved. If the man is encouraged to greater effort, the woman’s pleasure increases, and so on to a mutual climax.

In recent studies, researchers are reporting that up to 60% of adult women find sex unsatisfying. In some, it’s a simple lack of desire or the sense that sex is just not that satisfying an activity. Indeed, up to one-third report penetration to be painful. The issue for the medical profession is whether this is cultural, i.e. women are trained to think of sex as sinful and given all kinds of inhibitions about their virginity, psychological, i.e. women are sexually abused, pick up sexually transmitted diseases and get depressed, or is it biological? If there are physical problems, there will be drugs to “cure” the problems. Just as men are given Viagra and are magically back into the game, so the pharmaceutical industry dreams of selling a female version. So far, none of the proposed female versions of Viagra have made it through clinical trials with a sufficient success rate to justify the FDA giving them a license. Indeed, the feminists condemn the drug industry for trying to create a problem so it can sell a cure. No matter what your view of this, the one important point is whether helping women show more enthusiasm during sex will improve men’s sex drive. Perhaps acting lessons should be available under health plans.

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